It Still Hurts, Even After All This Time

It Still Hurts, Even After All This Time

It’s been over a decade since we learned that our son is gay. You’d think I’d be used to it by now. I’m not. I’m sitting in Sunday school and a man several rows back brings up the “sin of homosexuality” and declares that the church isn’t “hard enough” on that sin. It...
The Cycle of Addiction: Preoccupation

The Cycle of Addiction: Preoccupation

In his book Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Patrick Carnes introduces the “addiction cycle” as it relates to sex addiction. He shares 4 components to this cycle. They are preoccupation, ritualization, sexual compulsivity, and despair. For this...
Loneliness—A Heart’s Cry for Love, Pt 3

Loneliness—A Heart’s Cry for Love, Pt 3

In Part 2 of this series, I talked about three kinds of loneliness.  For a bit of discussion on the first two, Simple Disconnection and Absolute Loneliness, click here. Existential Loneliness The third kind is Existential Loneliness, defined as the “unexplainable...
June 12, 2016 – A Day of Tragedy

June 12, 2016 – A Day of Tragedy

Introduction: I originally wrote this article soon after the Orlando Shooting in June of 2016. Today is the two year anniversary of that horrible day. The tragedy has moved further into the past but more like it have happened in the time since. We are called to...
Are We Helping or Hurting  Abuse Survivors?

Are We Helping or Hurting Abuse Survivors?

In conjunction with the Survivors of Abuse group we periodically offer here at WGA, I have read and re-read Dan Allender’s book, The Wounded Heart. In the prologue of his text, Allender addresses a few points about ineffective paths to healing for abuse survivors....