The Antidote to Heartsickness

The Antidote to Heartsickness

When my kids were little, one of the TV  shows we all enjoyed together was Hee Haw.  Laughing together was good medicine for what ailed us—and a lot ailed us during those years.  I was just four months into a new marriage, when we got custody of my husband’s four...
Painful Obstacles for LGBTQ+ Youth: The Results

Painful Obstacles for LGBTQ+ Youth: The Results

In my last blog I described what it was like growing up struggling with issues around gender and sexual identity. What is still heartbreaking to me about this is I was navigating these complex issues mostly on my own. I was too fearful about what would happen if I...
The Cycle of Addiction: Ritualization

The Cycle of Addiction: Ritualization

In my last blog, I introduced the sexual addiction cycle from Patrick Carnes, as shared in his book Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. I shared about the first part of the addiction cycle, called preoccupation and some helpful things to consider when...
Painful Obstacles for LGBTQ+ Youth

Painful Obstacles for LGBTQ+ Youth

Growing Up Gender Dysphoric and Gay I was already at a disadvantage from the word “go” growing up. I began struggling with confusion about my gender around age 5. It started off in small ways. I wasn’t rough and tumble like the other boys, but more emotional and...