Coping with My Coping Mechanisms (Part 1)

Coping with My Coping Mechanisms (Part 1)

“Coping mechanisms are the strategies people often use in the face of stress and/or trauma to help manage painful or difficult emotions. Coping mechanisms can help people adjust to stressful events while helping them maintain their emotional well-being.” –...
Sex Addiction, Threat to Freedom

Sex Addiction, Threat to Freedom

There is a lot that we can become addicted to. We have social media, food, shows, movies, video games, sex, alcohol, substances, news, fitness, approval, technology, relationships, money, success, work, novelty, thrill, and the list goes on and on. Whew. In this, I...
Addictive Behavior vs Healthy Behavior

Addictive Behavior vs Healthy Behavior

In his book, Don’t Call It Love, Patrick Carnes writes about sex addiction… both how the problem develops and what recovery looks like. In Chapter 7, he shares a list comparing Addictive Behavior with Healthy Behavior, as these relate to sexuality. Here are a few of...
The Avoid-O-Meter

The Avoid-O-Meter

“You would like to know how I behave when I am experiencing pain, not writing books about it. You need not guess, for I will tell you; I am a great coward. But what is that to the purpose? When I think of pain—of anxiety that gnaws like fire and loneliness that...
Why does accountability fail?

Why does accountability fail?

One of the things you hear a lot in recovery is, “Accountability, accountability, accountability.” And accountability is an invaluable tool when seeking to overcome any type of behavior that is troubling or addictive. Yet, there are some pitfalls that might hinder the...