Maybe You Should Talk to Someone (Counseling 101)

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone (Counseling 101)

“What does this inkblot look like to you?” “You need to get in touch with your inner child.” “But how does that make you feel?” Cliches and caricatures.  It’s what most of us who have never seen a therapist think therapy is like.  And, to be honest, if they were...
Shame and the Power of Bearing Witness

Shame and the Power of Bearing Witness

When I was a kid, I had a debilitating fear of being seen.  Like a lot of us, I was mercilessly bullied in grade school, told that I was stupid, ugly, awkward, and that it would be better for everybody if I just disappeared and stopped polluting others’ lives.  So I...